"Society makes you believe that you need to have someone to be complete. I do have someone... I have me - finally" - Me
Yes, I quoted myself.
With Valentines Day approaching, I have heard such debate about being single versus being in a relationship. The most recent is a friend of mine is catching a lot of flack for posting "single status updates" on Facebook, which quite frankly, pisses me off. People in a relationship can post their fluffy "I am happier than Jesus riding Santa's sleigh to a unicorn party" posts, but you cannot do the same for being single? Isn't the point to be happy? Why does it have to be in a relationship? Why is everything so fucking categorized? Why does society tell us we have to be in a relationship or married to be doing the right things in life? Then you look at divorce rate or hear people complain about their spouse/partner and being cheated on or losing themself and think "WELL THAT SOUNDS FUCKING AWESOME!"...nope. So, you are condemning me for NOT being in something that is set up to fail? That makes complete sense.
Our inner dialogue...that we do not even know we are having likely, sounds like this: "I am attracted to them, I should probably be in a relationship with them. I have been in a relationship with them for a while, we should probably get married. We are married, we should probably have kids."
Hey inner dialogue, shut the fuck up.
MY NEW INNER DIALOGUE: "Are you happy? Yes? Do that."
If you are married or in a relationship and it works, great... zippetydoodahday for you. That is AWESOME. But for those of us who are not, stop making us feel bad. Stop asking to set us up. Stop asking if we are seeing anyone YET. Maybe we are, maybe we are not, why does it MATTER... shouldn't you be asking us "are you happy?"
I will celebrate Valentines Day because for the first time in YEARS, I am loving myself and I've got some new inner dialogue going. And I am HAPPY, yes, happy. With my nonconventional, non-label wearing, not society approved, out of the norm life... being happy.
So Happy Valentines Day. I hope you all are happy, no matter what your situation.
